Thursday, November 20, 2008
Hutang Lama~
to Maryam Abdul Rahman,

here are the notes on Keluarga Sakinah & Mawaddah (dated 19 Feb 2007) that i owe u. sorry for the delay. i remember you asked me back then to share with you what kiyai Aa Gym presented in this lecture, and i remember saying "InsyaAllah" that i'll share it with you. words must co-exist with actions, yes? =)
as what my Anisah shared with us few days back, in the words of Ibn Taimiyyah:

قل إن شاء الله تحقيقاُ ولا تعليقا

Say "InsyaAllah" with the determination to fulfil what has been said, and not simply as something to "sedapkan ayat" or "pelengkap bicara" or so that your sentence seems more religious, etc.

reminder for myself, as always. and then to others :)

initially i thought of sending you these points via email, but hey, my visitors might be interested in them too. bab rumahtangga ni peminatnya ramai kan, sama ada dorang nak mengaku ke tak nak je~ -_-"

Ciri-Ciri Keluarga Sakinah:

1. Senang beribadah dengan tenang dan istiqamah.
-rezeki tu tak semetinya dalam bentuk wang, tetapi juga dari segi ketenangan hati dan kemudahan dalam urusan.

2. Akhlaq terpuji
-Apa itu akhlaq? Akhlaq ialah reaksi spontan yang ditunjukkan oleh seseorang ketika diberi ni'mah dan musibah. (dan mungkin juga dapat diketahui pada waktu-waktu tertentu. contohnya: ketika bila kita terlanggar seseorang, bagaimana reaksi orang itu? reaksi dia yang mula2 sekali, itulah yang dinamakan reaksi spontan. bukan dah marah2 dan bermuka masam beberapa saat kemudian baru nak beristighfar/senyum...)
- Tidak ada solusi dengan emosi.

3. Belajar dan berlatih tanpa henti.
-belajar itu sama wajib dengan 'ibadah

4. Bekerja keras dengan cerdas dan ikhlas.
- jangan mengharapkan ganjaran.
-niat mesti bagus dan lurus, cara mesti professional dan betul, dan hati perlu tawakkal dan yakin pada Allah.
-mesti ada skill untuk menjemput rezeki yang ada di sekitar kita.

5. Bersahaja dalam hidup.
-biasa sahaja, tak usah mewah2, tak usah megah2.. be proportionate and humble.
-Orang kaya ialah orang yang sedikit keinginan untuk memuaskan dirinya, bukan orang yang banyak wang.
-jangan fikirkan penilaian orang kerana ianya sering membuatkan kita tertipu.
Problem kita ialah: kalau Allah tak suka pada kita..

6. Bantu sesama
-siapkan telinga dan diri untuk tidak menerima walau ucapan "terima kasih".

7. Bersih hati selalu
-selalunya manusia sakit hati bukan kerana dihina, tetapi kerana tidak dipuji, kerana terlalu berharap dan bersandar pada manusia.
-Allah memuliakan dan menghinakan sesiapa yang dikehendakinya.
contoh: Rasulullah 'alaihis salatu wassalam dulu pernah dihina dengan teruk, dicerca, dilontar najis, etc. tetapi jika Allah mahu mengangkatnya, akan jadi mulia juga! :D

تعزّ من تشاء و تذلّ من تشاء

...
to Kak Sarah Adam:

i remember owing you the notes for one of the seminars once held at MWTI. what i remembered from the seminar was (didn't get to follow it completely coz had to do some ushering at that time. hee):

- It's fine to differ in our opinions, but those disagreements and differences in opinions should be presented politely, with adab.

and in addition to what i grasp during the 'Eidul Fitr khutbah few months back, the imam was reminding us that differences in opinions should not hinder us from loving each other :)

moral of the story: meh lah sayang-menyayang. ha!

p.s. feel relieved to be able to share all these, as if a burden has been lift off my shoulder. should there be some other "hutang", please let me know. will try to recall them, biidznillah.
 
posted by .:Mujahidah Khadijah:. at 11/20/2008 01:53:00 AM | Permalink |


1 Comments:


  • At 12/24/2008 2:47 AM, Blogger no.17

    Khadijah, thank you so much for still remembering :)) I'm very touched.

    Btw, sorry I read this kinda late. Not because I don't visit your site often, but because I simply have slacked keeping up with ALL friends' blogs - so it's not you, it's me wokkay? :) Getting busier but slackier by the day la :P khekhekhe. Hope you are doing awesomely welllll, inshaAllah!!!

     
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