trying not to be angry isn't as easy as i hoped it would be....
ya rabb...
Bantulah hambaMU yang lemah ini dalam menjaga dan membersihkan hatinya ya rabb…
Dan kepada manusia2 yang dengan sedar ataupun tidak, suka menyakiti hati orang, semoga Allah memberi hidayah kepada mereka dan kita…
Friday, March 19, 2010
Rain, Rain, pour pour pour...
Few months back we had a tazkiyah an-nafs session (sesi penyucian ruhani) on al-muhasabah adz-dzatiyyah (self-reflection). Syeikh defined al-qalb as-sofiy (the Pure Heart) as the state when we are in a solitude, thinking of our relations with the people around us, and cleansing ourselves from any traces of hatred, resentment, and grudges towards others.
Whenever someone tried to hurt us, we should say to ourselves:
“I will never allow him/her to spoil the purity of my heart”;
“There are people who hurt me and are cruel to me, but insyaAllah, I will never be cruel towards them nor anyone else;
“I might not like him, but at the same time, I don’t hate him either”.
It’s interesting to note how his words keep on repeating in my mind whenever I chance upon people / situations that get on my nerves. Fuh!
Challenging, yes. But give up, I will not, biidznillah. Here’s where mujahadah comes in! =D
Not to forget the self-promise I made to myself last November. i.e. try not to get angry. Haa! Knowing how “berangin” I can be at times, I wanna challenge myself. First few days proved to be verrrry trying indeed. TER-geram pat satu lelaki Arab ni. Bachin sgt2 n membazir masa orang. Kalau tak tau tu cakaplah tak tau, ni nak action tahu, lepas tu, ternyata dia TAK tau.
After all that “internal mengamuk”, I regretted. Rasa menyesal kerana rasa marah macam tu. Bila marah, otak tak berfikir betul, mulut kalau tak ditutup, habislah menjadi pintu masuk dosa. Wal’iyadzubillah. Slowly, but insyaAllah consistently, I hope to try not to be angry, unless for Allah’s sake.
Btw, I once read in a Sufism book that when faced with the mischievousness of children, yes, we can scold them, we can put on a fierce outlook, tegaskan suara, but inside, we are not angry.
Hmm… I guess all these need training. Lots of it. Sebab tu lah kene mula dari sekarang =D
On that note, recently, I came across two wonderful set of articles on raising kids. The first one is a self-help book on parenting, entitled: “Genius in 28 Steps” by Halimahton Yusof (one of the Singaporean auntie here, Cik Ani, introduced the book to the Dmasyq sisters during a first aid course we had last week. Hehe. Of course, it’s not part of the course, just that Cik Ani wants all of us to be the best mom for our kids in the future, biidznillah. Ameen ya rabb! ^-^)
I’ve browsed through the book. Very useful indeed, except I feel that the parents should strike a good balance between those “striving for academic excellence” tips (which is apparently the main aim of the book) and the spiritual, religious aspect. Macam mana bijak pun kita nak anak kita jadi nanti, unsur-unsur agama, kerohanian, akhlak dan adab amat perlu dititik beratkan. Kan kan kan? =) (kene angguk tiga kali! Hehe)
The other article is by Hina Khan-Mukhtar, taken from http://muslimmatters.org/. Thanks to Madihah who forwarded such a brilliant link to me. I truly enjoyed reading every line of the superb article. May Allah reward the writer for compiling the tips and sharing valuable life experiences with us.
here's an excerpt of the article -among my favourites:
I was once singing “Rain, rain, go away; Come again another day; Shaan and Ameen want to play” with my kids when my brother interrupted us.
“Don’t teach them that! Rain is a blessing! You don’t want them rejecting blessings just because they want ‘fun’,” he rebuked me.
After experimenting with the lyrics, we ended up singing, “Rain, rain, pour, pour, pour; You’re a mercy from our Lord; Rain, rain, fall on me; I turn to Allah gratefully.” To this day, whenever dark clouds dampen a day that they had hoped to spend outside, my kids console one another by saying, “It’s okay. California needs the rain. Allah is being Kind to us.”
This suggestion by my brother is a reminder of another piece of advice that families have repeatedly given me — “Never miss out on a teaching moment.”
i loike~
Now, why am I interested in reading these kind of articles, u may ask.
Simply because I love the topic! =D
tak semestinya dah kahwin/dah ada anak baru nak pelajari ilmu ini kan?
Bagaimana pula dengan anak-anak nusa kita? The kids around us, our nephews, nieces, cousins, students, etc.
we might not meet them that often, but wouldn’t it be meaningful if we get to influence their tarbiyah (upbringing) in a positive way during those rare instances that we do get to interact with them? Biidznillah!
Ilmu Allah itu Maha Luas. Pelajarilah sebanyak mungkin ilmu yang bermanfaat selagi kte masih diizinkan utk bernafas di atas muka bumi ini….
...Lalu sebarkanlah ia! :D
اللهم اجعلنا مفاتيح الخير ومغاليق الشر
Ya Allah, jadikanlah kami kunci kepada kebaikan dan penutup bagi kejahatan...
Whenever someone tried to hurt us, we should say to ourselves:
“I will never allow him/her to spoil the purity of my heart”;
“There are people who hurt me and are cruel to me, but insyaAllah, I will never be cruel towards them nor anyone else;
“I might not like him, but at the same time, I don’t hate him either”.
It’s interesting to note how his words keep on repeating in my mind whenever I chance upon people / situations that get on my nerves. Fuh!
Challenging, yes. But give up, I will not, biidznillah. Here’s where mujahadah comes in! =D
Not to forget the self-promise I made to myself last November. i.e. try not to get angry. Haa! Knowing how “berangin” I can be at times, I wanna challenge myself. First few days proved to be verrrry trying indeed. TER-geram pat satu lelaki Arab ni. Bachin sgt2 n membazir masa orang. Kalau tak tau tu cakaplah tak tau, ni nak action tahu, lepas tu, ternyata dia TAK tau.
After all that “internal mengamuk”, I regretted. Rasa menyesal kerana rasa marah macam tu. Bila marah, otak tak berfikir betul, mulut kalau tak ditutup, habislah menjadi pintu masuk dosa. Wal’iyadzubillah. Slowly, but insyaAllah consistently, I hope to try not to be angry, unless for Allah’s sake.
Btw, I once read in a Sufism book that when faced with the mischievousness of children, yes, we can scold them, we can put on a fierce outlook, tegaskan suara, but inside, we are not angry.
Hmm… I guess all these need training. Lots of it. Sebab tu lah kene mula dari sekarang =D
On that note, recently, I came across two wonderful set of articles on raising kids. The first one is a self-help book on parenting, entitled: “Genius in 28 Steps” by Halimahton Yusof (one of the Singaporean auntie here, Cik Ani, introduced the book to the Dmasyq sisters during a first aid course we had last week. Hehe. Of course, it’s not part of the course, just that Cik Ani wants all of us to be the best mom for our kids in the future, biidznillah. Ameen ya rabb! ^-^)
I’ve browsed through the book. Very useful indeed, except I feel that the parents should strike a good balance between those “striving for academic excellence” tips (which is apparently the main aim of the book) and the spiritual, religious aspect. Macam mana bijak pun kita nak anak kita jadi nanti, unsur-unsur agama, kerohanian, akhlak dan adab amat perlu dititik beratkan. Kan kan kan? =) (kene angguk tiga kali! Hehe)
The other article is by Hina Khan-Mukhtar, taken from http://muslimmatters.org/. Thanks to Madihah who forwarded such a brilliant link to me. I truly enjoyed reading every line of the superb article. May Allah reward the writer for compiling the tips and sharing valuable life experiences with us.
here's an excerpt of the article -among my favourites:
I was once singing “Rain, rain, go away; Come again another day; Shaan and Ameen want to play” with my kids when my brother interrupted us.
“Don’t teach them that! Rain is a blessing! You don’t want them rejecting blessings just because they want ‘fun’,” he rebuked me.
After experimenting with the lyrics, we ended up singing, “Rain, rain, pour, pour, pour; You’re a mercy from our Lord; Rain, rain, fall on me; I turn to Allah gratefully.” To this day, whenever dark clouds dampen a day that they had hoped to spend outside, my kids console one another by saying, “It’s okay. California needs the rain. Allah is being Kind to us.”
This suggestion by my brother is a reminder of another piece of advice that families have repeatedly given me — “Never miss out on a teaching moment.”
i loike~
Now, why am I interested in reading these kind of articles, u may ask.
Simply because I love the topic! =D
tak semestinya dah kahwin/dah ada anak baru nak pelajari ilmu ini kan?
Bagaimana pula dengan anak-anak nusa kita? The kids around us, our nephews, nieces, cousins, students, etc.
we might not meet them that often, but wouldn’t it be meaningful if we get to influence their tarbiyah (upbringing) in a positive way during those rare instances that we do get to interact with them? Biidznillah!
Ilmu Allah itu Maha Luas. Pelajarilah sebanyak mungkin ilmu yang bermanfaat selagi kte masih diizinkan utk bernafas di atas muka bumi ini….
...Lalu sebarkanlah ia! :D
اللهم اجعلنا مفاتيح الخير ومغاليق الشر
Ya Allah, jadikanlah kami kunci kepada kebaikan dan penutup bagi kejahatan...
posted by .:Mujahidah Khadijah:. at 3/19/2010 06:34:00 PM
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Friday, March 12, 2010
Kerja da’wah adalah tugas aku, Pemberi hidayah adalah kerja Allah.
Apabila orang tidak berubah, caraku mungkin tidak kena.
Orang tidak harus dipersalahkan.
Putus asa tidak ada dalam diri.
Penda’wah mesti yakin bahawa risalah yang dibawanya adalah untuk kebaikan manusia.
Selagi prinsip ini menjadi tunjang seorang da’ie (penda’wah) dan murabbi (pendidik),
gerak kerja da’wah akan subur dan Islam akan terus bangkit membawa perubahan.
-Solusi isu no.14
Apabila orang tidak berubah, caraku mungkin tidak kena.
Orang tidak harus dipersalahkan.
Putus asa tidak ada dalam diri.
Penda’wah mesti yakin bahawa risalah yang dibawanya adalah untuk kebaikan manusia.
Selagi prinsip ini menjadi tunjang seorang da’ie (penda’wah) dan murabbi (pendidik),
gerak kerja da’wah akan subur dan Islam akan terus bangkit membawa perubahan.
-Solusi isu no.14