Hawa dicipta dari tulang rusuk Adam,
Bukan dari kepalanya untuk dijadikan atasannya,
Bukan dari kakinya untuk dijadikan alasannya,
Melainkan dari sisinya untuk dijadikan teman hidupnya,
Dekat pada lengan untuk dilindunginya,
Dan dekat di hati untuk dicintainya.
so who's the author? Good question. that was what my bro had been trying to find out for the past few weeks. we only knew that it's a Wisdom, and not a Hadith. and why did my bro even bother to find out abt it? coz he's planning to include it in his Walimah card :) insyaAllah he'll be promoted from an "engaged" status to a "married" one this coming December.
big bro aside, let's refresh what i did during my weekend. Sat morning ard 8am left for Kota Tinggi with my 3rd sis (Maimunah) to attend our cousin's wedding. Mak, Ayah, n 4th sis (Nor 'Azizah) went there Fri nite. when we finally reached the KT bus terminal at ard 11:20am (my baju kurung n tudung pun ntah dah jd ape by then), guess what?? we discovered that none of us knew the exact address of the place. each of us thought the other knew it. great! so we tried calling our other sis but couldn't get thru. so, not wanting to waste anytime, we just proceeded to the taxi stand. in the taxi, the driver asked for the address...
my sis: "Jalan Permas?"
Driver: "mane ade jalan permas..."
my sis: "Taman Permas?"
Driver: "takde...jalan permas ke, taman permas ke, semua takde. yang ade Taman Kota Mas.
My sis and me: "a’ah! Tulah dier…"
Moral of the story: to avoid buat kerja giler mcm budak berdua td, always be prepared. never assume that someone else knows something coz at times we just can’t rely on other people to come up with solutions to our problems or difficulties. In other words, try to be independent and self-reliable.
Anw, when we arrived, our cousin told us that Taman Permas is at JB. Ish. So a place by that name does exist!
Of course, by the time we arrived, the ‘akad nikah was over
=( padahal that was the very part I was looking forward to the most. The part the Qadhi will read the list of responsibilities of the husband. I still remember the last time I witnessed an ‘akad nikah. Ironically, it was that of a couple I didn’t even know. Took place at Ghufran, when I was lepak-ing at the musolla, then suddenly a guy came and switched on the TVs. LIVE beb! Lol. An Ustazah who was there said to me: "ni bagus ni kalau org2 lelaki yang dah kahwin pun tengok jadi dorang boleh sedar dan refresh balik apa yang pernah dorang janji dulu…" smtg like that ah.
Yep. Truly agree with her. Coz usually guys ni biler belum dapat, bukan main lagi semangat dan kesungguhannya. Tapi biler dah dapat??? Hmm~ just du’a that whatever was being vowed in front of the Qadhi will not remain a mere lafaz, or simply a vow written on a piece of paper, but hopefully it will be remembered and practised consistently throughout the marriage :) (dengar ni brothers. Ingatkan senang2 ke korang nak amik anak gadis org? =P)
"The word "shams" (sun) is feminine, and "qamar" (moon) is masculine. The sun burns itself out to give light and life to everything around, and the moon is muneer, meaning it reflects the light. Within itself it has no light; it radiates the brilliance of the sun. So when we shine as men, the implication is that we are reflecting the glorious light of our women. May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with them."- Shaykh Abdullah Adhami
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Anw, the theme was purple and white. Nice! Although I’m not really a fan of purple, but I can appreciate it ok. Kak Zura looked veghee pretty~ (kate pengantin per..) I got to see her ‘transformed’, before & after..from the point the Mak Andam applied the first layer of foundation…till she was all set in her purple suit complete with the veils, flowers, etc. coOL~
At nite, dah puas main pat pelamin (mcm budak2 aku ni), helped with things, ate durians (yep. Believe it or not, sempat my uncle’s fren sent a big basket containing 25 D24 durians at the place), I then went back to Singapore with my 2 bodyguards a.k.a my 1st n 2nd brothers. ;)
Sunday, 3rd Sya’aban 1427H
Went to As-Syafa’ah Sports Day with Huda. Had a great time there watching the kids played all sorts of games. Esp. the run & skip game for primary one. All sorts of styles~ ade yg mcm nak terbang. Ade yg continued to skip and wouldn’t run (as the emcee said: "jujur betul budak ni.."). ade yg asal boleh hayun the skipping rope back n forth. But the most unforgettable one would be this kid who suddenly ran all the way to his mother and CRIED on her lap! Huda n me were shocked (but we laughed of course.hehe). Ade jugak budak mcm ni eh…
Then we tried something i've been wanting to try since years ago: archery!! Yes YES~ there were free trials for all. 3 tries each. My students (some of the hyper boys I mentioned in my previous posts remember?) were busy teasing me and doubting my capabilities. eh eh bebudak ni… I even played street soccer before k? n archery is not even half as rough as that. Although only managed to hit the red circles n not the bull’s eye, me had a great time. Looking forward to try it again some other day, this time without those mischievous kids to distract me. Heh.
N yes Huda. Experienced that Attraction (NOT love) at first sight there...
Note: Pandangan pertama tidak mengapa dan dimaafkan tau. Tak sengaje. TER-pandang. Pandangan kedua dan seterusnya baru dilarang kan? ;)
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Afterwards, went to Huda’s place, changed, and set off to attend sis Aisyah Samad’s walimah pulak. She’s my senior at MWTI and currently also working at as-Syafa’ah. This time, the ‘aruusaini wore gold suits –kain songket. Lawa! Met some asatizah n a lot of my seniors there.
Some came with their husbands, some who are getting married end of this year or the next, some who are already engaged. Not forgetting my other friends who were not around, including those in the same batch as me, even my juniors… can say that most of them are "attached".
Some came with their husbands, some who are getting married end of this year or the next, some who are already engaged. Not forgetting my other friends who were not around, including those in the same batch as me, even my juniors… can say that most of them are "attached".
….and me? haha. Why don’t we move on to the next part:
I still remember what my teacher complained to me the other day during the Seminar Fiqh. She said many of the primary students she’s teaching are ‘busy’ wanting to have mata airs… when she asked why?, they will answer back with a question: then why the thanawi (secondary) and thanawi ‘aali (pre-U) abang2 and kakak2 can have mata airs?
Alahai teacher tanye saye pulak… (little did I know that my ‘experience’ as Prof Joyah in M-Talk will be needed here. Hehe.) I just shared with her how when I was in primary sch, I don’t even remember myself thinking abt guys. Was busy with diaries (remember how we used to write our "personal datas" in each others’ diaries inclusive of the sweet messages, poems n photos? Hehe…suker~), playing all sorts of games. The most I interacted with boys was playing ice n water or police n thieves with them I guess. (tu pun dorang yg kepo nak join. We girls didn’t even invite them. Haha.).
Time secondary pulak I grew up to be a bit (erm, maybe a lot) tough towards guys…Got to know some guys even ‘afraid’ of me? hehehe. Mesti aku ni garang n strict giller punyer time tu. Jumpe je kalau tak gaduh mcm tak sah gitu. (bunyi mcm gangster pun ader eh?) Ish. And not forgetting my laser remarks… ooopsS. Part ni kte mengaku kiter byk buat berdosa… tsk tsk.. to those guys yg pernah terkena directly or tempiasnya laser shots Khadijah, ampun sgt2. Ntah knp. With sisters me usually cakap beralas, berlapik, berlembut, dan ber-ber yg sewaktu dgnnya. But biler dgn guys mcm asal boleh sembur je… =/
Now? InsyaAllah Khadijah yg ni dah tone down siket. Dah boleh maintain cool, more mature, have more control of herself, and less emotional (hopefully). Learning to see guys in a more positive light so that she can develop some sense of respect for them. Biler dah ader respect, takde lah nak marah2 or gaduh2 sgt kan? Hehe. N the brothers also have to show good examples if they want themselves to be respected. =D
Lelaki pun manusia yg berperasaan, Khadijah. Ingat tu. Jgn ikut sgt angin kus-kus kau tu =P
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Anw, to the abang2 and kakak2 out there, remember that whether u realise it or not, ur actions are being observed (and might be followed) by the juniors. These kids think that this BGR thingy is alright merely because their seniors are doing it. I know I have no right to prevent or nak menyibuk hal org lain. But the least this insan dha’if could do is to offer good advice (remember Sayyidina ‘Umar’s saying?). Kalau nak bermanja2 ke hape (u guys already know the hukum, so I won’t touch on that here) jgnlah nak menunjuk2 depan budak2 tu… I really can’t imagine primary school kids having bf/gf. Kalau baru primary dah camtu, dah secondary nanti camne pulak? Ish. Now I’m getting worried…
is it also partly due to the high tech era where even small kids have handphones and thus able to interact more freely with the opposite gender? Hmm~ What do u guys think?
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Back to the marriage story, to Kak Zura n Kak Aisyah, Selamat Pengantin Baru~ Khadijah du’akan semoga berkekalan dan mempunyai rumahtangga yg diberkati dan dirahmati Allah. Amin! :)
Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. [Barnett Brickner]
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Oh yes. And while we are still on the topic, I would like to share with all of u a du’a an ustazah enthusiastically asked me to practise (hehe). Apalagi kalau bukan du’a minta jodoh yg soleh/solehah! :D but the prob is, I don’t have Arabic software (anybody wants to sponsor? ;), n I don’t really like writing it in normal alphabets to avoid mispronunciation of the kalimahs, which will of course change the meaning. Parah beb~ But basically the du’a means: "Oh Allah! Please grant me zaujan solihan, engage and marry me to him and make him my companion in Jannah." *AwW*
p.s. to those who want the complete du'a can always contact me. nak sesuatu kene lah usaha kan? ;p
Err, I know this is getting loooong, but tak salah kan flood blog sendiLi? ;)
There was this one novel I read about how this girl always du’a to Allah semoga dipertemukan dengan lelaki yg baik, soleh, etc.
Notice something? Yep. She only du’a agar dipertemukan dgn lelaki yg bersifat2 terpuji gitu. But she forgot to du’a abt her jodoh with such a guy. i just find this particular part interesting...
Dah namenyer cerita, so ditakdirkan in the end the loving pair didn’t get to be husband and wife…tsk tsk.. wanna know more can read the novel urself. Such a nice novel that taught me the meaning of loyalty and Ikhlas. (Ikhlas ialah apa yang terlintas di fikiran, itulah yang di hati, dan itulah yang diucapkan).
That aside, there’s another marriage-related issue I want to touch on: Polygamy. Alar..the issue most guys always use "ikut sunnah Rasulullah" as an excuse tu…. Heh. Huda shared that Ustaz Saripi Rawi pointed out during a ceramah the other day that marrying a second wife AFTER the first wife had passed away is a sunnah, whereas getting a second wife while the first one is still alive is merely mubah (allowed), NOT a sunnah. Coz Sayyidatina Khadijah binti Khuwailid radhiallaahu ‘anha tak pernah dimadukan. (weE~ I loike!). only after she wafat then Allah asked Rasulullah to marry Sayyidatina ‘Aisyah binti Abu Bakar as-Siddiq radhiallaahu ‘anha. How many of us actually realise this interesting fact? ;)
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This Sunday will be attending sis Mardhiah Hayati’s walimah pulak, another collegue at as-Syafa’ah mosque. A very sweet sister. Dah naik dah seri wajah dier when I met her yesterday. InsyaAllah bikhair majlisnya nanti ye Ukht? :) Khadijah try pergi lepas balik dari Islamic Conference Journey to Ihsan tu nanti, biidznillah. Ntah knp, suker sgt gi walimah... tgk org kahwin… looking at the happy faces of the ‘aruusaini… tersenyum2…berseri2… smoga berkekalan dan akan melahirkan generasi Islam cemerlang buat pemangkin Ummah Islamiyyah di masa akan datang! Amin~
