after i posted it, somehow i kept thinking of those 5 points. n the following day, sis Nadiah tagged me abt the same thing that i've been wondering: How simple is it to fulfill those 5 and be a happy person, really?
mcm real je kan letak "simple indeed" tu... hee~
i myself have to admit that i'm not a happy person at ALL times, but alhamdulillah, most of the time, i am :)
sometimes i wonder why some people don't even care to smile at others. so what if u don't know that person (btw, i'm talking abt smiling to people of the same gender as you, be it Muslims or non-Muslims). tak luak ape pun kan kalau senyum?
tu baru senyum.
Quite frequently i came across angry people online. it's sad to see people backbiting others. i believe there's nothing wrong in blogging or commenting at people's blog about ur opinions n views, abt ur life...
but to actually use your blog as a medium to backbite n make other people look bad??
the other day i came across a comment from "anonymous", backbiting someone who turned out to be a close friend of mine. i've known my friend since as young as primary one. such an intelligent n adorable person she is, n here's that "anonymous" person saying bad things about her.
ish. even if other people do not know who you are, are you not aware that ALLAH Almighty is there Watching your every single move?
still remember last time when i was small (a'ah. my blog ni byk flashbacks. dah nk jd mcm Naruto. heh), reading about n watching all those wicked, greedy, selfish people in comics, novels, storybooks n TV programmes, i thought the authors/directors were merely exaggerating. like, "takkanlah ade manusia yang jahat mcm tu kan...". yeah, very naïve of me, i know.
but as i grow up, i realise that those people really exist :(
anw, back to the 5 "rules",
no. 1 is easy for me. but it doesn't stop there. what about forgetting what other people have done to you? yes, i'm talking about the people who have hurt you in life, be it through their actions or words.
To forget is a more challenging task, but it's not impossible :)
i recalled reading somewhere ages ago abt how we should always try to remember 2 things:
1) the good things others have done for us
2) and the bad things we have done towards others, be it consciously or unconsciously.
these, insyaAllah, will help to foster the friendship or relationship :)
again, simple things, ain't they? but how many of us actually practise them?
moving on to no.2 ...
uh-oh. ni ade challenging siket. i dunno if it's just part of being a lady (i prefer it than "woman". a lady (n): a woman of refinement and gentle manners. coOL~), but this worrying thingy sometimes just doesn't seem to cease. about school stuff, about clothes, about people's feelings, about family, about my time-management, about how slack i'm getting....
n most of the time, admittedly, they are not-so-necessary stuffs. still remember (see? warned u about flashbacks, didn't i?) a seminar i attended few months back. A professor pointed out that 80% of the things that are on our mind are actually unnecessary stuffs. only 20% of what we are thinking are really important.
have to agree with him. rase mcm membazir space kat dlm otak gitu kan fikir benda2 tak penting. worse, risau psl benda remeh-temeh. have to try harder from now on k Khadijah?
No. 3 and 4 are relatively feasible, insyaAllah. i like the idea of "living simply" :)
no.5 ?
in one of my previous posts, i wrote about "jangan suka meletakkan harapan pada manusia, kerana ianya kelak akan mengundang kekecewaan..". another case of easier to write than to practise. -_-"
it's not material-wise. just the thoughts.
in case u're wondering, i'm talking abt friends here.
sometimes u wonder how come those people whom u've known by chance, turned out to be the ones that actually make the effort to hold on to the ukhuwwah.
like my friend Nur Ashikin Suhaimi from Aljunied. how we met? we met in the train. on our way to madrasah last time. usually the only time we had to chat with each other was when the train stops at City Hall, while waiting for the opposite train to arrive.
But alhamdulillah, the ukhuwwah still survives. In fact, last Ramadhan n Syawal, she even messaged me, all the way from Syria (yes, she's currently pursuing her studies there). what a pleasant surprise! terharu sgt.
i couldn't help but compare it with my other friends, whom i've known for 5 years or more. terus senyap. the reason?
ler... takkan tak tau...
B.U.S.Y.
oh okay...
orang lain pun belajar jugak tau. kerja, tuitions, homework, CCAs, involvement in student bodies, etc. etc.
maybe just a short sms? perhaps a simple e-mail? or just leave a simple "Hi!" ke at my tagboard, at least to let me know that u're doing fine...
am i asking for too much?
again, the the keyword here is "simple".
B.U.S.Y.
oh okay...
orang lain pun belajar jugak tau. kerja, tuitions, homework, CCAs, involvement in student bodies, etc. etc.
maybe just a short sms? perhaps a simple e-mail? or just leave a simple "Hi!" ke at my tagboard, at least to let me know that u're doing fine...
am i asking for too much?
again, the the keyword here is "simple".
Simple things do work wonders u know...
like last time, nak kene tunggu sampai kte tag korang nye tagboard ke baru nak tanye "how are u after the operation?".
oh. so they actually knew about it. just waiting for me to "come to them" baru nak tanye khabar. susah sgt kan nk click button gi kat www.khad-safiy.blogspot.com.
agaknye kalau esok lusa orang meninggal pun dorang nak tunggu my roh tag at their tagboards, baru nak tanye: "oh. Khadijah dah meninggal?? innalillahi wa innaa ilaihi raaji'uun...."
haiz. now that i've typed all these out, i feel guilty.
like last time, nak kene tunggu sampai kte tag korang nye tagboard ke baru nak tanye "how are u after the operation?".
oh. so they actually knew about it. just waiting for me to "come to them" baru nak tanye khabar. susah sgt kan nk click button gi kat www.khad-safiy.blogspot.com.
agaknye kalau esok lusa orang meninggal pun dorang nak tunggu my roh tag at their tagboards, baru nak tanye: "oh. Khadijah dah meninggal?? innalillahi wa innaa ilaihi raaji'uun...."
haiz. now that i've typed all these out, i feel guilty.
tak baik suu'uz zann tau Khadijah. agaknye dorang mmg sibuk sgt. very. extremely. Maha Sibuk. so tak sempat nak e-mail or blog-hop or sms (mahal kan).
O Allah. indeed my iman is very, very weak. Please guide me, and show me the ways and means of strengthening it...
erm.. my 1st comment in ur blog.. "agaknye kalau esok lusa orang meninggal pun dorang nak tunggu my roh tag at their tagboards, baru nak tanye: "oh. Khadijah dah meninggal?? innalillahi wa innaa ilaihi raaji'uun...."
haiz. now that i've typed all these out, i feel guilty.
tak baik suu'uz zann tau Khadijah. agaknye dorang mmg sibuk sgt. very. extremely. Maha Sibuk. so tak sempat nak e-mail or blog-hop or sms (mahal kan)."
Dear sister.. takmu lah sampai gitu sekali.. k. Isbir.. I noe how u feel at tt present moment.. Cuma, kita sebagai kawan, sahabat seperjuangan.. toksah expect alot from our frens, close or even those who are not.. even to have an expectation tt they will at least do a simple tag. Really, it doesnt help..
For me, do it from our own end.. tag them.. ur sincerity in being concern abt them.. greeting them when u can.. i tak mint org say hi to me.. n i noe its not necessary.. Its not a major factor in making me a stronger muslim? rite..
Yang penting.. never stop our concern for them. walaubagaimanapun perangai n attitude mereka.
Sorry, this one more important. Pray and du'a for ur fren. Pray for their safety, their success. Du'akan kesejahteraan mereka.
N a reminder to myself, make a time, everynight b4 u close ur eyes to slumber.. Ampunkan dosa2 kawan u, mana yg u tau mereka buat pada u, ataupun yg u tak sedar.. Kerana, jika mata itu tidak akan buka sekali lagi pada esok pagi.. Sesungguhnya kawan kita adalah antara mereka yg rugi, kerana tidak dapat memohon keampunan atas kesalahan mereka pada kita..
And as u noe, the best deed, is the one tt nobody noes ur doing it..
SomeDude