I thought this would be easier (since Ayah has always been pretty strict in letting his 9th child (that is, me) hang out of the house, esp. if it’s gonna be somewhere far. "buat ape nk pergi jauh2? Dekat2 kan ade….."
n it sooooo happened that most of my frens reside in the east, n most events also have to be there. -_-"
Alas! The process of getting the permission to go for qiyam at Ghufran went thru something like this: me – 1st bro – Mak – 2nd bro – Mom – Me (Ayah still haven’t return from Darul Makmur).
Finally, 1st bro called and among the main contents of the ~35mins conversation are:
- "Org prmpn, esp. remaja mcm Khadijah, tak manis duk pat luar mlm2…sembang2 dgn kwn…w/pun kat masjid"
- "kecuali kalau satu hari nanti Khadijah dah capai cita2, dah kerja, dah berumahtangga, pergilah dgn suami…." >lameeeenyer~ tu pun kalau panjang umur... n tu pun kalau ader jodoh. heh.
- "Rasulullah pun tak menggalakkan wanita pergi qiyam kat masjid…" >I’ve yet to find the dalil on this. HmMpH.
- "sepatutnya sebagai seorg anak, kita patut berbakti kpd Mak dan Ayah dulu. Tanya diri kita, dah berape banyak kita dah lakukan utk menyenangkan Mak dan Ayah, menggembirakan mrk, selagi Mak dan Ayah masih hidup ni…berbaktilah pd mrk..jgn sampai nnt bila Mak dan Ayah dah takde baru nak menyesal…"
and he ended with something like: "Abang minta maaf eh Khadijah. Khadijah mungkin akan benci abang lepas ni…..etc. etc. Abang nak Khadijah timbangkan dan fikirkan baik2. Abang cuma bg nasihat je. The ultimate decision will still be made by Mom n Dad."
That’s my 1st bro If u wanna know. Never raised his voice at me. I don’t even remember him scolding me. Pukul jauh skali…advise pun bil hikmah. He’s 21 years older than me n already like my 2nd father. Dun worry lah Abang. Org tak marah atau benci abang pun… in fact, I should be thanking u for the constant advices n reminders. =) oh yeah. His name? Mohamed Shariff. Ex-national rugby player (looooong time ago laa. Against my parent’s wishes. Hah!). stylish. n very handsome. Carbon copy of the Hindi actor Sanjay Dutt. Really! ;)
